“I am not a bridge”

A beautiful post by Ethnically Incorrect Daughter on Relative Choices

I love this part:

Perhaps the role of the adoptive parent could be viewed, not so much as
a bridge, but as a builder of bridges, connecting their children to
themselves and their ethnicities. As parents, the ability to find and
develop the tools is in their hands, not in the hands of their
children. Of course, there is no one solution or guarantee that it
would achieve the desired outcome. I don’t think it should be a matter
of end result, but of preparing a child to deal with the challenges
they face as they come into their own.