What is an International Adoptee supposed to do when they are told
“the truth” about the geopolitical situations that placed them first in
an orphanage or foster home, and ultimately in a home in another
country?
How are they supposed to process the “fact” that their birth country did not want them?
Who will they blame?
When adoptive parents tell their child that in their “birth country”
boys are valued more than girls, or that it is considered unacceptable
for unmarried women to get pregnant, or that mixed-race children are
discriminated against, or that children born from prostitutes are
ostracized, or that children born with “special needs” are
institutionalized;
Are these parents also telling them that our own country has held
and acted upon the same beliefs, either currently or in our recent
history?
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