Since this blog has been around for a while, people sometimes get lost trying to find their way through the archives. These posts listed here are a place to get started. I’ve listed the blog posts that either seemed to resonate with people and/or were thought provoking. I also want to warn people that during the transfer of this blog from its former site, some of the comments to some blog posts did not transfer, which is disappointing and I’m sorry they did not transfer over.
Personal reflections about my adoption experience
- Adoptee vs. Adoptee
- Adoption Poster Child™
- Angry Adoptee
- Being Married to Harlow’s Monkey
- BiBimBap
- Cooking Lessons
- Fear
- Home again
- In eight days
- In the Shadow of My Family Tree
- Jealousy
- Life in the fishbowl
- More than the sum of our losses
- Reflection
- Searching Seoul documentary
- Speaking out
- Survivor’s Guilt
- Thanksgiving
- The Dating Game
- The Name Game
- The other end of the telescope
- The personal is political and the political is personal
- The root of fear
- What No One Told Me About Adoption
- Windows and Mirrors
Reflections about race
- Anti-Blackness and Adoption
- “Great White Hope” or What the media teaches my daughter
- Can’t We Just All Get Along?
- Freaking out over Freakonomics
- How children learn racism
- Inviting me to the party
- Learning about your culture causes bad identity issues
- Little pitchers have big ears
- My response to “color blind” theory
- Race Matters: What does it mean in your transracial family?
- Taking off the blindfold
- The other “white” meat
- What does your world look like?
- What’s for dinner? A tossed salad or a melting pot?
Reflections about social work and child welfare
- A brief history of child removal/child protection
- Adoption disruptions and adoption dissolutions
- Ambiguous Loss
- An open letter to the children being separated from their parents at the border
- And even more about adoption disruptions and dissolutions
- Discriminating against communities of color in the child welfare system
- Don’t Stop Believing
- Giving it away
- Learning to question
- MEPA/IEPA
- More thoughts about MEPA
- One of the masses
- Orphanages or Adoption?
- Placing children out of their families is an American tradition
- Rage against the machine
- Slaying the dragon
- Summer Adoption Programs
- They’re talking about Me
- Who deserves to be a parent?
Thoughts about adoption
- A few bad apples
- Advice to agencies/organizations that seek wisdom from adult adoptees
- An open letter to potential Children’s Book Authors
- Found in the Cabbage Patch
- Juno
- Moral relativism and moral pluralism in adoption
- Opening the gates
- Rethinking “Forever Family”
Thoughts about transracial and intercountry adoption
- (Relative) choices
- A chorus of starfish
- Adoptee radar
- Asian adoptees as a Hollywood trend
- Behaviors & Attitudes of Allies to Transracially Adopted Persons
- Client, Ambassador, Gift*
- Drive-by Culture
- Fearing the Adult Adoptee
- How to suppress discussions about transracial and transnational adoption
- MEPA/IEPA
- Moral relativism and moral pluralism in adoption
- Parenting Tips for White Parents with Adopted Children of Color
- Parents’ embrace of the ”home” culture can have its costs
- Race Matters: What does it mean in your transracial family?
- Rainbow Families conference – transracial adoption in the GLBTQ community
- Re/Defining Orphans
- Reversing the gaze
- Taking off the blindfold
- Thoughts about the Hart family
- Transracial Parenting in Foster Care and Adoption book
- What does your world look like?
- Young HM Magazine?
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