by Sun Yung Shin, in the Summer 2007 issue of MN ASAP Family Voices newsletter.
1. Live in or move to, if you have to, a multicultural, racially and ethnically diverse neighborhood. Make sure your child regularly interacts with people of color in a variety of ways.
2. Study and learn about whiteness and white privilege. Don’t waste time and energy in feeling guilty. Guilt is a luxury of those with privilege. Embrace the opportunity to work for social justice. Study and learn how to be an active anti-racist, and then do it.
3. Understand that even if your child is, for example, ethnically Chinese, she or he will be perceived as "Asian American" or simply "Asian" (or worse, Oriental). Understand the complex and interrelated history of various groups of color in America. Don’t overemphasize traditions from the culture of origin at the expense of dealing with race in America.
4. Be prepared to teach your child how to directly respond to racist comments, questions and incidents. (You’ll have to learn this from adults of color). Never make excuses for others. Never brush off these incidents as insignificant or isolated.
5. Be prepared for friends and family to be confused or even offended by your anti-racist work. Be patient with them and let them know about your new priorities. Continue to make friends of all races who are interested in making America a truly equitable nation.
6. Avoid saying or thinking that, "I’m ___________ too now that I have a child from __________." That’s simply offensive and insulting to all the people who are really __________ and don’t get to "choose." Understand the difference between nationality, race, ethnicity and culture — and how they overlap (or don’t overlap) for your child and your family.
7. Study and learn about your child’s culture(s) of origin, not from North American and/or white writers but from writers and historians from within that (those) culture(s).
8. Understand how gender and sexuality operate in your child’s culture(s) of origin.
9. Understand that even if your child is disinterested in her or his culture of origin, she or he will be impacted by how the American mainstream perceives that culture.
10. Support the artistic expression and adoption-related professional work of adult adoptees — if only because your child will eventually be an adult adoptee.
11. Study the history of inequalities in terms of reproductive rights (who gets to have a safe abortion, who gets to keep their children, who is considered a socially accepted mother) in this country before criticizing the sexism or patriarchy in other cultures (or communities). Consider how you can invest in your child’s home community so that women and families . . . people who look like your child . . . will not "have to" send their children away.
Sun Yung Shin is the author of the poetry collection, "Skirt Full of Black" (Coffee House Press); co-editor of "Outsiders Within: Writing on Transracial Adoption" (South End Press); and author of "Coopers Lesson" (Children’s Book Press) a bilingual (Korean/English) illustrated children’s book for children. She is a 2007 Bush Fellow for Literature for Literature.
For more articles and essays about transracial adoption from MN ASAP (Minnesota Adoption Support and Preservation) you can download their newsletter or visit their website.
This is a really great list. Thank you for putting it together.
I’m glad it was helpful, just want to clarify that I did not write it. The author is Sun Yung Shin.
Thanks for posting this, and directing us to the newsletter.
This is an awesome site…
I live in Guatemala and so have followed quite closely all the corruption accounts regarding adoption. One question that I have never seen addressed is what the U.S. embassy’s role is in all of this… It seems suspicious that they could be so clueless when the corruption is so blatant. Have you ever heard of/read any investigation of the U.S.’s hand in adoption corruption?
Can I post this on my blog with a link back to you? I think it’s so informative, I’d like to spread it around the internet a bit. I know people in my life, close people, who need to know this stuff!