Six words: The adoption version

Several folks on my facebook feed this past week linked to The Race Card Project that was created by journalist Michele Norris. For The Race Card Project, people are encouraged to describe their experience of race using only six words. The submissions are powerful and heartbreaking and uplifting. I read through several pages of them and found myself at times nodding my head in affirmation and sometimes surprised (in both good and bad ways) by what was submitted.

Norris' The Race Card Project is not the first "Six Word" idea. I've participated in a local one for my city and neighborhood, and the first one I heard about was the Smith Six-Word memoirs.

It made me think that maybe it would be interesting to have an adoption version of the Six Word Project.

So here it goes – what would be your six word description of adoption from your experience? Please put them in the comments.


I'll start it off with what I submitted for The Race Card Project because it sums it up my thoughts about adoption and race simlilarly.




Ok, your turn.

Author: JaeRan

Assistant professor at UW Tacoma, writer, and researcher.

76 thoughts

  1. 1. Happiness at the expense of adoptees?
    2. Happiness at the expense of birthparents?
    From an anonymous adoptive parent (posted with permission)

  2. During graduate school, I worked as a research assistant where I interviewed adopted children and their parents. One child’s response (which happens to be six words) has stuck with me many years later. The young child explained adoption like this.
    “It’s living where you don’t belong.”

  3. Responses from my twitter request #6wordadoption:
    My daughter is entitled to anger – amydcubbage aka madmommamoogacat
    Walk with me on this journey – mumdrah
    Navigating the knife edge of dilemma – mumdrah
    Sacrifice. Hurt. Blessings. Amazing. Friendships. Love. – lauragbutler
    Legitimate half orphan bastardized by adoption – forbidden family
    More family,support,love changing perspective – RandomMusing23
    Surreal, but I remain me throughout – mscathyanne
    Not an orphan, didn’t need saving. (My son, but I can’t cram that in.)- kallistimn
    Two crazy families instead of one? – nicolecallahan

  4. anonymous six word. . . from adoptee in 30 year reunion
    Never Good Enough. No REAL Family.
    can’t resist –
    I Exist. Fuck Off Prudish Abandoners.

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